signs of spring
Apr. 8th, 2026 06:20 amMy first thought was: huzzah, the plants are back!
My second thought was: oh, I'm probably allergic to that


Seder was excellent; we actually got all the way through the Haggadah, which I don't think I've ever done before (usually after Shulchan Oreich we just hang out) so it was really nice to get to Miriam and Elijah's cups, and we had some good conversations and I'm so glad this tradition is something I have in my life now. I served snacks of popcorn, crudités with hummus and ranch, steamed shrimp, olives, and pickled red onion and pickled jalapenos; the baked brie with quince jam was a good idea that didn't work great in execution (tiny cast iron did not retain heat and the cheese was hard to put on the matzah, alas. But the vegetarian shepherd's pie and green beans and rhubarb-raspberry crisp were all delicious and doing the mango salsa for charoset is a great choice I am doing forever.
It is still cold and I am extremely tired of it. I am sick of my winter wardrobe. I yearn to drop off my winter coat at the dry-cleaner's and pack it away in storage. When????
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At my event this evening in Upper Arlington, my interlocutor Tom Winegard presented me with this copy of The Shattering Peace, which had been bedazzled by his spouse as a gift to me. This is the first time that I had heard of bibliodazzling, but apparently it’s a thing people do all the time these days. I have to say I don’t mind the effect. The book is now at home in a place of honor on my shelf. I am bemused and bedazzled.
Also, the event itself was a lovely time! Thank you to everyone who came out to see us.
— JS
So! Some people went around the moon! And are on their way back!
I know the live video feed was super compressed and low-res intentionally, but I hope there is high-res eclipse footage when they land.
Also I know returning to the moon is not necessarily the best use of limited resources from a science perspective, but (one) I want people to feel aspirational about people doing science in space again, so we're not just getting press about billionaire assholes who want to, I dunno, put a casino in orbit around venus; and (two) this was all a mission by and for The People. This isn't a damn SpaceX or Blue Origins launch, this is NASA (with an assist from ESA and CSA).
I am going to love good things when they happen and space is a good thing.

Saturdays I am part of a group working through "The Artist's Way." Participants have ebbed and flowed through according to our various schedules but the time working on it has been valuable. There's definitely some class issues embedded in it which are much more evident to me now as opposed to when the book came out in the 90s, especially when we're talking about time, being able to make space within your current situation. However, it's been useful to do this and meeting new folks is always fun.
Have a quilt or two I want to start. Mostly just have to cut things and prep and get on it. Also have to start a wedding quilt for the godson. After I do one the first one that's scratching my brain, I'll start on the one for the wedding. The wedding is in October but I know me and how I work/not work with time. I already have the fabric so it's just a matter of getting started.
Our sportsgay transformation continues. Baseball is incoming. We went to the second exhibition game between the Oakland Ballers and the San Jose Giants in San Jose. Got to see our baseball friends and enjoy a mostly dry game. Shirley and I came prepared for rain and there was a bit of a drizzle but nothing too bad. Our team got waxed but we all still had a good time anyway. The Ballers were able to get the original Battle of the Bay trophy from NBC Sports and the original artist refashioned it to reflect that it is now the San Jose Giants vs. the Ballers instead of the SF Giants and the (formerly) Oakland As. The Ballers' season opener is May 19 so not too long now.